couples class

Resources for Couples

Videos                TEDx with Stan Tatkin:
                            Relationships are Hard  But Why

               TEDx with Joanne Davila:
                             Skills for Healthy
​                             Romantic Relationships

RELATIONSHIPS
Book: 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work - by John Gottman & Nan Silver
                      Article: Masters of Love - The Science on Lasting Relationships                      
                      Article: How to Keep Love Strong - Summary of the 7 Principles 
                    PDF poster: How to Keep Love Strong
                    Video: 7 Principles
                    Love Maps
                    Love Maps + more worksheets (from book 7 Principles)
                    Article: The 4 Horsemen - Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness & Stonewalling
Books: Mindful Relationship Habits - by Barrie Davenport
             201 Relationship Questions 
             Journal for 201 Questions (pdf, 300 pages)
Book: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence - by Esther Perel
                     Esther Perel's Blog
                     Esther Perel's TED Talks
Book: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment - by Amir Levine
                     Gottman Institute: Interview with Amir Levine 
Book: Wired for Love (on the topic of diffusing conflict) - by Stan Tatkin
                     Gottman Institute: Podcast Interview with Stan Tatkin 
Book: Hold Me Tight - by Sue Johnson  (PDF of Hold Me Tight)
Book: Modern Kinship: A Queer Guide to Christian Marriage - by David & Constantino Khalaf

What Is Your Attachment Style?

​WEBSITES

• The Gottman Institute (John & Julie Gottman)
  • ​Gottman-trained therapists
• The PACT Institute (Stan Tatkin)
  • ​ Therapists trained by PACT
• Dr. Sue Johnson
  • ​Therapists trained in EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy)
• Esther Perel
• Straight Spouse Network (support for couples with a straight spouse and an LGBTQ spouse)

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COMMUNICATION
Book: Living Nonviolent Communication: Practical Tools - by Marshall Rosenberg
​Essay from book (readable online) - By Marshall Rosenberg
                     Slides: Nonviolent Communication Flow (for full screen, click "Present" under View tab)
​                     NVC website: NVC Model from Center for Nonviolent Communication

What is NVC?

​Book: Taking the War Out of Our Words - by Sharon Ellison
                    Articles from PNDC - Powerful Non-Defensive Communication ​​​

Sharon Ellison Videos on the "War Model of Communication"​

     Why Are We So Defensive?

     Why Can't We Think Straight When We Get Defensive?

     Are We Addicted To Power Struggle?

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Tools for Parents & Children

• Comprehensive Resource Links (google docs)
• Family Meetings (3 examples)
  • by Positive Discipline
  • by Colorado State University
  • by Center for Parenting Education 
• The TOOLBOX by Dovetail Learning (a non-profit that seeks to empower kids how to be empathetic, resilient, be emotionally self-aware, and communicate non-violently)

            Introduction to the Toolbox

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Step Families / Blended Families
Books: 

• The Stepfamily Handbook: From Dating, to Getting Serious, to forming a "Blended Family"
• Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships: What Works and What Doesn't
• Wisdom On Step-Parenting: How to Succeed Where Others Fail
• Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages and Becoming Stepfamily Smart
• The Smart Stepfamily: Seven Steps to a Healthy Family

Google Slides on Step Families from Prepare Enrich

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