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Resources for Couples

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Resources for Couples

Videos                TEDx with Stan Tatkin:
                            Relationships are Hard  But Why
               TEDx with Joanne Davila:
                             Skills for Healthy
​                             Romantic Relationships
RELATIONSHIPS
Book: 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work - by John Gottman & Nan Silver
                      Article: Masters of Love - The Science on Lasting Relationships                      
                      Article: How to Keep Love Strong - Summary of the 7 Principles 
                    
PDF poster: How to Keep Love Strong
                   
 Video: 
7 Principles
                    Love Maps
                    Love Maps + more worksheets (from book 7 Principles)

                    
Article: The 4 Horsemen - Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness & Stonewalling
Books: Mindful Relationship Habits 
- by Barrie Davenport
             201 Relationship Questions 
             Journal for 201 Questions (pdf, 300 pages)
Book: 
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence - by Esther Perel
                     Esther Perel's Blog
                     Esther Perel's TED Talks

Book: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment - by Amir Levine
                     Gottman Institute: Interview with Amir Levine 
Book: 
Wired for Love (on the topic of diffusing conflict) - by Stan Tatkin
                     Gottman Institute: Podcast Interview with Stan Tatkin 
Book: Hold Me Tight 
- by Sue Johnson  (PDF of Hold Me Tight)
Book: Modern Kinship: A Queer Guide to Christian Marriage
- by David & Constantino Khalaf
What Is Your Attachment Style?

​WEBSITES
  • The Gottman Institute (John & Julie Gottman)
    • ​Gottman-trained therapists
  • The PACT Institute (Stan Tatkin)
    • ​ Therapists trained by PACT
  • Dr. Sue Johnson
    • ​Therapists trained in EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy)
  • Esther Perel
  • Straight Spouse Network (support for couples with a straight spouse and an LGBTQ spouse)

COMMUNICATION
Book: 
Living Nonviolent Communication: Practical Tools - by Marshall Rosenberg
​Essay from book (readable online) - By Marshall Rosenberg
                     Slides: Nonviolent Communication Flow (for full screen, click "Present" under View tab)
​                     NVC website: NVC Model from Center for Nonviolent Communication
What is NVC?

​Book: Taking the War Out of Our Words - by Sharon Ellison
                    
Articles from PNDC - Powerful Non-Defensive Communication ​​​
Sharon Ellison Videos on the "War Model of Communication"​
     Why Are We So Defensive?
     Why Can't We Think Straight When We Get Defensive?
     Are We Addicted To Power Struggle?

Tools for Parents & Children
  • Comprehensive Resource Links (google docs)
  • Family Meetings (3 examples)
    • by Positive Discipline
    • by Colorado State University
    • by Center for Parenting Education 
  • The TOOLBOX by Dovetail Learning (a non-profit that seeks to empower kids how to be empathetic, resilient, be emotionally self-aware, and communicate non-violently)
            Introduction to the Toolbox

Step Families / Blended Families
Books: 
  • The Stepfamily Handbook: From Dating, to Getting Serious, to forming a "Blended Family"
  • Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships: What Works and What Doesn't
  • Wisdom On Step-Parenting: How to Succeed Where Others Fail
  • Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages and Becoming Stepfamily Smart
  • The Smart Stepfamily: Seven Steps to a Healthy Family

Google Slides on Step Families from Prepare Enrich


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​Donnel Miller-Mutia
- chaplain, grief support specialist, relationship educator, artist
- shares arts and skills to aid your growth in the fullness of life. 

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      • Resilience Resource
      • Chaplain's Tea
      • Prayers for Staff
      • Silent Prayer
      • Prayer Requests
      • Blessing of Hands
      • Blessing of Workspace
      • Imposition of Ashes
    • Resources for Spiritual Care Groups >
      • Leaders Guide
      • Learning Modules
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        • Healing Hands Mandala
      • Mindful Gestures
      • Community Singing >
        • Healing Breath
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